Resilience, Hard work, Hunger, Dreamer, Proactive, and Driven, It’s easy to express these qualities in simple prosaicisms.
However,painting a picture of true character of what separates someone from being a Go-Getter, a have from the have-not is something that is difficult for me to articulate.
For me the difference between being a mediocre kind of woman and settling for the hand that was dealt me, to being someone who is propelled past her own commonplace is all in the heart.
It’s hard to define, but I’d say it’s the gumption to dream loftily, the drive to make those dreams reality, and the resiliency to overcome obstacles and failures.
I guess in some ways, it’s also just taking on the responsibility for my own life and especially doing so when others can’t or won’t.
I believe in embracing fortitude to take you from a plateau to unimaginable forward steps, it begins with a progressive unwavering mindset. One I’ve just always seemed to have.
Most realizations start out with a seemingly impossible dream—an idea that sparks an undertaking. Whether it’s buying a house, or houses, to catching a train, going on an adventure, putting in a garden, to larger things like going back to college to pursue a career passion or to invest in a business idea to become an entrepreneur, every action starts with reaction to a thought, a simple idea!
In Laymen’s terms, it’s simply a sort of debilitating problem I see some people have; either you’re a dreamer, or get off your ass kind of doer! You’re either lethargic or not mindful of how you spend your time and money. Or you’re energetic and you keep yourself accountable to your financial and personal goals. I see it like this; some just talk the talk, but rarely walk the walk.
Although, I may be optimistic sounding, I too am a realist and know we all get caught up in this little thing called life and it often distracts us from putting thoughts into motion.
Often, I see it’s that old familiar scapegoat of how we were raised and/or that victim mentality.
But again, even with all that life gives us, I honestly believe it’s just something that’s deep inside all of us. Either you have heart to move beyond circumstances or you don’t.
It’s just a decision! Make it! What is it that you want to do? How you are going to do it? and then decide a will and a way to make it happen.
I suppose you could argue in many instances in life, you must be both a dreamer and a doer to get where you’re going.
You just got to start somewhere and go from there. I’d say, Go-Getter’s start with a vision, and then they map out what it will take—the work, dedication, discipline, money, and energy, etc—to achieve what it is they set out to do and then take actions to make it happen.
Honestly, I see this disconnect between what people dream and what they do to achieve them. How many times have you heard people say what they’d like to do or have and what they actually do to turn those “likes” or “wants” into reality .
Yeah, in most cases, it’s a lot easier said than done. I know! But I’m talking, even in the small really achievable everyday desires, they just don’t. It seems the two are often a contradiction to their vision. Why?
One of the key facets of this character for me is the ability to organize and plan, not to mention overcome setbacks and effectively navigate obstacles in my way. No, not just hard for you but easy for me!
My characteristic has been defined in many ways—having thick skin, pretentious, stubborn, spitfire, bitch, unselfish, loving, giving. Whatever it is good or bad. The point is clear; to move forward you have to be able to bounce back physically, emotionally, and financially.
Additionally, you need not have what I like to define as a hopeless poor-man’s mentality.
Winston Churchill knew a thing or two about resiliency. He once said that
“success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.”
Moreover, he offered this important outlook about the cyclical nature of accomplishment:
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts.”
“Resiliency is imperative to not just achieve, but to live your dream.”
Most failure is experienced when people give up despite success being just around the corner. A good example of this is two people in a committed relationship. You want it bad enough!? Have a never-quit mindset that drives you to keep going and to weather whatever storms comes your way.
If you storm the beach and move past the initial string of failures, you still might have the crashing waves of obligations, not only to yourself but to your loved ones. A motto I’ve lived by- Sink or Swim!
Ok, maybe that wasn’t a good example. Sometimes you need to know when to hold them and when to fold them!
Although I do believe you can be successful all on your own. I also believe, especially in a marriage you can’t achieve success solely by yourself.
To achieve together, you must understand the importance of stepping up, doing your part, taking responsibility for specific actions, and holding your family or spouse accountable for their part.
This is where I see some relationships fail or where two people just settle. Its like seeing two people on two entirely different pages in life, one shouldering all the weight, giving it there all to the betterment of life together and the other settling for I can’t and won’t do that to a mentality of “it is what it is” and accepting of circumstances. I guess that’s the secret of success for some?
I think it’s important, once you have conquered one mountain top together, to never stop dreaming and purse the next peak.
I think it’s almost impossible to do this without the support of those who you have bought into your vision and to work together. To “lead” the dream you must be transparent and vulnerable, yet strong-willed and driven to keep moving forward.
At the same time, I believe it’s important to stay humble, encourage your family to be the best they can be, take responsibility, except them for who they are, love them unconditionally, respect their views and opinions, but also hold them to their own actions and build them up while doing so.
President Theodore Roosevelt once pontificated on the characteristics of apathy he saw in his fellow man:
“Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat.”
If the great leaders in history allowed fear of failure to keep them from stepping out and pursuing a dream, our society would look immeasurably different. Without dreams and failures, we wouldn’t have the shoulders of those who came before us to stand upon.
Sometimes if it weren’t for my own dreams and failures, not to mention shouldering my husband’s and my visions, I wonder were our life would be right now?
I think that belief holds true for relationships and life in general. It’s not all inclusive, but having the resiliency not to live in the gray but to have the attitude to; dream, do, continue, overcome, fear less and seek the next mountain top separates those who are the go-getter’s from those who settle for complacency.